Going away with his parents is fine for J. He’s still self-conscious about not being dry at night. He never wakes up to go to the toilet himself and we keep him out of nappies these days by lifting him. Frankly it’s cheating at being dry at night, but it does help his self-esteem because he isn’t wearing nappies.
He rarely has an accident these days unless we try the odd night without lifting him to see if he’s ok. When we go away we tend to use pyjama pants as a back up to avoid embarrassment on his part again of wet sheets. He’s fine with that if he’s sharing a room with us and most of the time he is.
The thing is that J is nearly 9 and he’s getting the opportunity to go away for nights without us now. He’s been offered a cub scout camp which I think he’d love to go on. He hasn’t said as much, but I think it is the dry at night thing that is holding him back. That saddens me as I think he is missing out on things he wants to do. I’ve offered to have a word with the cub leaders, but he doesn’t want that either because he’s embarrassed. We have always tried to reassure him that he doesn’t need to be embarrassed, but it’s inevitable that he will feel self-conscious about it I think.
I’m starting to wonder if we shouldn’t go back to the doctor about it. I took him when he hit 7 and the doctor didn’t want to know because there was a family history on his dad’s side. With 9 approaching, I’m wondering if we shouldn’t have it checked out. I might have a word with the school nurse soon and see what they think.